Often in my life, I have to confess, I blamed my parents for certain challenges I was facing, for virtues I haven't learned from them, for things I haven't mastered because they had not taught me... Blame did not improve the quality of my life in any way and I feel really blessed to finally understand (and apply more often!) the following:
- Pointing fingers has no benefits for anyone involved. Instead, it dragged me down - every time, into a downward spiral of minding other people's business instead of my own.
- All the people that came to play with me during this life time are teachers. Some are pleasant and fun and kind, others are mirroring my own bad feeling thoughts, emotions, fears and worries. No wonder I prefer to stay away from those - thoughts and people!
- When someone has a great skill that appeals to me, it's worth learning from that person till I master it myself - and then further improve and adapt it to my own unique need or situation.
- No parents can teach their children everything. They are in the process of learning and growing themselves.
- Last but not least, how could I ever blame my parents for anything after I chose them myself and knew in advance what kind of challenges I'd be facing during this lifetime?
- There are only three kinds of lessons every parent has to offer to their offspring:
- Those that don't even apply to a child's life.
- Those that one wants to copy because they appear to be very wise or beneficial.
- Those that I choose to change or improve because they don't serve me at all.
In conclusion I have to say that my parents were really great. They gave me the best wisdom and example I could ever get from anyone: they were Daring! They dared to be themselves and different in an environment that hadn't been really supporting or kind to "greenhorns." And on top of that, they never advised me to "try to fit in..." And for that alone I feel eternally thankful!